Yesterday I was able to get a little break from the kids because my mother in law took them to Grant’s Farm.
I headed over to see Bob and I figured since I was already over that way that I would go look at the headstones since it’s right down the street. I pulled into the parking spot and an overwhelming amount of anxiety washed over me. I headed towards the door passing a few headstones on display and made my way inside. Immediately I started shaking and crying uncontrollably. I think I was able to get out a sentence or two to the guy there and he gave me a piece of paper with some starting prices. I told him I’d have to come back another time because it was just too much. I knew it was going to be hard but had no idea that that would happen.
I remember when I went to pick out Bob’s plot and the guy saying we couldn’t have certain ones because people were buried there they just didn’t have a headstone yet. Some were there more than a year without one. He said we couldn’t put one out until at least 6 months after his burial anyway and I was shocked. I didn’t want Bob to be without one for that long and here it is 9 1/2 months later and I haven’t even picked one out yet. I’ve been looking at some online for ideas. I have so much I want on there and want it worded a certain way, photos to be used and I just want it to be perfect. Bob deserves the best and that’s what I plan on giving him.
Alicia, I can feel your pain and anguish in your post, I pray that God will comfort you at this time. I pray that happiness be at your door, may it knock early, stay late, and leave the gift of God’s peace, love, joy and good health behind.
Grief never end… But it changes. It’s a passage… Not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith… It is the price of love.
Alicia, where there is deep grief… There was great love. #Chaplain Sarge
Thank you Sarge.
You will find the best things you can to put on it. And I don’t think you really have to worry about it, it will be loved by all. Maybe you should take someone with you next time. Love ya, Marti
Thanks Marti, I may have to do that.