How am I supposed to know if my kids are acting like normal 2 and 4 year old’s or if the way they’re acting is because their daddy died. The boys have always wrestled with each other, hit, argued and so on but they are also the best of friends who give each other hugs and kisses and play nicely. Lately though they are hitting each other even more, fighting, screaming, taking toys away from each other and just crying about everything. They are pushing every single one of my buttons and I honestly just don’t know what to do.
They have always been attached to me since I stay at home but for the most part things have been okay when they go with a grandparent, aunt or uncle. Lately my 4 year old doesn’t want to go to grandmas. He just cries and wants to stay with me. He told me he didn’t want to go because that’s not his house, he wants to stay at his house. He’s always liked going to grandmas so I’m not sure what’s changed.
The other night Logan had his Christmas concert. He didn’t participate at all, he just stood there and looked around, mainly at the bands equipment. I know he’s only 4 but when I’ve watched him through the window to his class he’s singing the songs and doing the moves. Is it just a normal 4 year old thing that he’s embarrassed in front of others or is it something else? Their daddy always played his guitar for them and sang to them. When the kids were walking into the church the band was playing and he couldn’t take his eyes off of them. That’s the main thing he looked at during the concert was the instruments.
I honestly hope it’s just him being a normal 4 year old but it worries me. He’s such a great kid, I don’t want him to miss out on things because he’s sad that his daddy isn’t here.